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March 24 2016

Self Esteem - What Would It be Like to Like Myself?

The love of my well being.

Recently a few friends were discussing marriage, and I heard myself saying, "I had married myself some time ago." I surprised myself while i said it, as I really didn't have a ceremony consequently, but it did dawn on me that in the subtle way and also over a period of time, I had actually had a 'Commitment Ceremony with Myself'.

They were intrigued with my statement, and before I knew it, I was explaining that, like most people, I had longed for a partnership with that one special person, and that that involved. I'd in my mind my listing of what I needed and wanted, and another list of all my disappointments and heartbreaks. Lists filled up with dreams, hopes and cynicisms. The right person, the perfect relationship and my perfect life took part and out of my daydreams for countless years.

Daniel Wellington

I thought about the weddings that we had attended, and also the vows that people make and wondered what are the probability was a thief could indeed fulfil those promises. To like, honour and cherish, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, for much better or worst. Being faithful and keep themselves only for the other. For God to approve the union as well as a warning that no man can put asunder. It's interesting that we all believe to some extent that there really is a individual who can love, honour and cherish all of us the days of our lives. Interesting, mostly since it probably never occurs to all of us that we are incapable of loving, honouring and cherishing ourselves every one of the days of our lives. It can be somewhat amazing to consider that we can stand before God fully believing we have been capable of loving someone else like that, and offering up our full and heart felt commitment. It's even more amazing that we actually do believe that someone can fulfil that commitment.
Daniel Wellington

Back in the day of reinventing myself, I had to get totally honest with myself because i explored the many facades, illusions and erroneous beliefs i had about myself. I also had to get very clear in regards to the difference between what I wanted, as opposed to what I thought I wanted. I needed to set clear goals, and I needed to dump a great deal of baggage. Ultimately, I wanted to not only know myself, but most importantly I needed to like myself.

It requires time, it takes attention and yes it takes determination. I personally got to a stage where I not merely achieved this, but I also considered that I really could even push it further and explored the potential of 'Loving Myself'. No, I do not mean arrogance, vanity, self-centeredness or selfishness (those things are insecurities dolled up as self-confidence).

My notion of marrying myself is around commitment; making promises and investing in pay attention to living those vows on a daily basis. Initially, when I chose to make changes in my well being, I wanted to improve my wellness energy levels. On achieving this, I then decided to actively pursue well-being on all levels: creativity, financial and business success, improved relationships along with a beautiful peaceful home life.

In bringing this about, I also made drastic modifications in letting go of things that impeded or prevented my success. Once this stuff were put into place, the more it all became. The greater I felt, the greater I could add to my list of what I needed and wanted, along with the easier it became to accomplish those goals. As my self-confidence and self-respect grew, my set of obstacles became better to deal with.

Respect and Confidence

As a child, I was taught that it was selfish or bad manners to place my needs before the needs of others. It absolutely was vain to think that I was anything special, and discussing my achievements was regarded as being bragging. Pleasing others suggested that I was kind and likable, and so i learned very at the beginning of life to detach myself from myself. I was raised feeling guilty only thought that I had something someone else didn't have. I cannot remember leaving food with a plate without feeling guilty concerning the starving children in India. Although I truly do believe that it is important to be considerate and humble, I would not believe that this requires us to get disrespectful to ourselves.

Somehow the good intention of learning to be kind, considerate and fair is becoming jumbled in our brains. Many people have interpreted these good teachings to imply other people are more important than we are, our opinion is less valued than the opinions of others or simply that we have been developed to believe that we are less and our everyday life are less. The result of such thinking results in a lack of self-respect and low self-esteem.

Some people live their lives like they are assistants to other people. Many individuals have fantastic opportunities presented, but they just can't recognize or accept them. How often do amazingly brilliant or talented people never reach show the world their work? How common could it be to be capable of loving someone, however, not ever experience being loved inturn?

Low self-esteem or not enough self-respect serves no purpose. Putting yourself last, keeping the least amount, keeping your ideas quiet or making yourself 'Small' at all, serve no purpose.

The lesser you allow yourself to become, the less you will need to contribute to anyone else. So, ignore the 'I'm kind, humble, considerate and fair' image you happen to be giving yourself as it is easy to be generous when you have little to offer. Insufficient self-respect is nothing more than stifling your own spirit.

No matter how much we give attention to our physical reality, it's almost impossible to ignore the spiritual part of being. Yes, many of us are spiritual beings here on earth Earth, and we are all having a physical experience. However, the spirit within is continually whispering and it is always calling for us to honour our position on the Earth and to honour our own existence. Low self-esteem is an insult to this great gift of life that we each have been given. It's a unique and individual journey. We're not here to experience another person's life; you can support and assist others, but you do not sacrifice your life to live for others.

We have made a point about self-esteem and self-respect, while i believe it is impossible being happy if we will not have respect for ourselves. Self-confidence is not about who you were or which team you will be, it is about being comfortable within your own skin, and placing great value by yourself existence regardless of who or your location.

If I were willing to commit to myself the way two lovers commit in marriage, then my vows could possibly be:

I (name...) promise myself to honour and give gratitude for the privilege of getting this life.
I'll view my existence as my most precious and valued gift,
and I will endeavour to add my unique qualities to this particular process.

My intention for this journey is to accept love, happiness and peace within on a daily basis.

I will operate from the place of respect and honesty with other people and myself,
and i'll be genuine and thoughtful around my actions.

Because I love, honour and respect myself
I consciously allow my heart to reach out and fill others.

I (name...) vow today to fill my body wonderful that promotes health insurance vitality.

I will agree to myself to treat myself as my most sacred temple.

I will fill my mind with and maintain thoughts that inspire creativity, wisdom and data and optimism.

I'll speak of health, wealth and happiness and share such words effortlessly I meet.

Chance, success, prosperity and exciting opportunities is going to be embraced and received fully.

I am going to actively pursue quality relationships, enjoyable work and stimulating experiences.

I will be gentle and kind with myself, and enable myself to relax and stay peaceful.

I will seek pleasure and excellence in my work as well as my play.

Today I make my pledge to myself, along with my heart I will carry forward my commitment throughout each of the days of my life.

Today I make my pledge to myself, and in my heart I will carry forward all of that I am and all which i will become to add to life my best in all things.

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